Master’s of Marriage
John Gottman is considered a marriage expert, He has studied thousands of successful couples and documented what it is that these “masters of marriage are doing that attributes to their success. Here is a list of what components he has found that are important in successful long term relationships.
- They are gentle with each other.
- They spend time in and enjoy conversation with each other.
- They allow for influence by their partner.
- They do keep score by remembering the good things their partner does for them.
- Each partner knows themselves reasonably well.
- Each partner honors the others dreams.
- There is a positive sense of humor in the relationship.
- There are shared goals and a sense of team work in the relationship.
- There are good conflict resolution skills in the relationship.(sometimes this means doing something, and sometimes it means letting things take care of themselves.)
- There is a sense of continued romance in the relationship.
- They consider contempt, for the partner, in all it’s forms, as a threat to the marriage and it must be avoided, or worked through.
In his book, The Seven Principles for Making a Marriage Work Gottman (and co-author Nan Silver) explain how couples can develop and reinforce the key elements that can help hurting couples to become more satisfied and successful in their marriage.
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Pretty good stuff.
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